Can I partner?
The space between me and my partner seems so wide. Like many people, I spend my energy trying to get the dance right and leave until last dancing with my partner.
My question is, why do I feel the distance between me and my partner so great? Is the shift to dancing together as simple as an inhale, as easy as relaxing behind my eyes to receive this beautiful person in my arms?
The answer of course is to simply dance with my partner. “With” being the most important in every part of the learning. When will I do that?
My question for myself is, what will it take to fully dance with my partner? Can I manage the expansiveness and openness I feel in dancing? And at the same time, can I learn the dance form making myself and my partner comfortable with the movements, the changes, the beats and the feeling of the music?
Is mine a peculiar kind of right brained openness that connects everything only in free form movement? Or does my system just take more repetitions to build the brain space for the form?
Maybe it is because I do not put a value on the established form and am constantly creating my own version in my mind. In this case, I would be selfishly refusing to dance with my partner while waiting on my real dance to emerge.
So each dance I begin new and take a breath and say “with, with, with.”